It seems that more and more couples are more likely to split after three years. In fact, the highest divorce rate now occurs during the first six years of marriage.
“Couples are now four and a half times more likely to split after three years than the traditional seven years. – Netmums
The study by parenting website Netmums found that couples are now four and a half times more likely to split after three years than the traditional seven years.
Experts said that trying to juggle careers and parenting while struggling with changing gender roles is leading to more relationship failures. They also cited a growing trend for ‘fast forward’ partnerships as couples get together later in life, but spend less time getting to know each other before having children, the Daily Mail reported.
A noteworthy 21% of couples who split, saw their relationship fall apart after they had been together between two and four years. Disturbingly 12% split within a year.
On the other hand, only 3% of couples broke up after seven years.
Having children apparently put the greatest strain on a relationship. Nearly half (42%) of the 1,500 parents questioned said that having children had driven them apart and only a third said it had brought them closer.
Four in five admitted that their relationship suffered as a result of exhaustion caused by the birth of a new baby or looking after young children. Many struggle to spend quality time together with 15% ‘never’ going out as a couple after having children and 14% managing only one night out a year together.
Nevertheless, many seem to be having children earlier in relationships.
The problem is that many couples believe that “all you need is love”. That their love is strong enough to weather the storms that come with the exhaustion, unexpected emotional demands and possible anxiety and/or depression of being a first-time parent on top of all the changes this causes within the relationship. These problems can become even more complicated when couples have another child, if they do not make time to think about what worked and what didn’t with their first child and consider how they could do things differently next time as a team.
Many studies have shown that couples who prepare for the realities of having a baby fare much better in their level of satisfaction, both as parents and partners. That’s why it is so important to learn as much as you can about making healthy choices and adjustments both as a couple and as individuals. Take classes, join a support group, and if the challenges seem out of control, see a couples therapist. The earlier you start the better.
Let us know what ways you’ve found to make it work when the two of you became three.
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