5 Tips for Improving a Low Sex Drive

Unfortunately, many women and some men suffer from a low sex drive. It is estimated that almost 40% of all women and about 10% of men have issues with a lack of libido at some point in their lives. Fortunately, there is usually an explanation and remedy for their lack of sex drive.

Here are five helpful tips for improving a low sex drive.

1. Determine the Reason for a Lack of Sex Drive

Quite often, women (and sometimes men) will experience a low sex drive because they are not physically or emotionally feeling their best. It could be something as simple as a headache or nausea or something more direct like vaginal dryness. It can also be caused by emotional insecurities, exhaustion, or depression. The first step in treating a low sex drive is determining the root cause.

2. Treat the Reason First

Unfortunately, you won’t be able to revive your sex drive until you are able to treat the real reason behind your lack of libido. Once you have identified the cause of your low sex drive, the next step will be searching for a solution.

In most cases it will involve explaining your personal situation to a medical professional, which could be uncomfortable for some people. Always keep in mind that there is nothing abnormal about a low sex drive and that it is best to share this with a physician in case it is a sign of a more serious issue.

3. Set the Mood for Lovemaking

The phrase “not in the mood” is often used by people who suffer from a low sex drive. Sometimes it is a cover up for physical or emotional problems and sometimes the person is literally not in a sexual mood. In all cases, romance should be brought back into the equation any time your sex life is lacking its usual passion. You can quickly set the mood using simple things like music, candles, and lingerie.

4. Go Back to the Beginning

Many married couples will get into a bland sexual routine of skipping right to the “good” stuff. If your spouse’s sex drive is lacking its usual interest, try being as flirty and affectionate as you were in the beginning of the relationship. Always remember that gentle touching and kissing is just as important to the sexual experience as the physical act of sex.

5. Try Something New to Spice it Up

If reverting to romantic moments from your earlier days does not reignite the fire, try the opposite. Purchase a risqué toy or outfit, try role playing, or any other fantasy that comes to mind. Make sure to always discuss your intentions with your lover or spouse first, so they have an opportunity to share their thoughts and fantasies.

Although a low sex drive is not an incredibly serious medical concern, it is something that deserves your attention, especially if you are married. Sex is a wonderful way to connect physically and emotionally with another human being and it shouldn`t be ignored. Hopefully these five steps will boost your sex drive and make it easier to enjoy sex with your partner.

Low Sex Drive: Tips to Increase Libido in Women

female_sexual_dysfunctionAfter having a baby, many women suffer from a low sex drive. While naturally having a baby changes the dynamics of the relationship, if a woman was very sexually active before the baby and now she isn’t, this can add stress to the relationship.

Is it Natural for My Sex Drive to Decrease?

It’s natural for a woman’s sex drive to decrease some after having a baby. Your body just went through nine months of change and now with a newborn and increased responsibilities, it can take a toll on your body. Doctors generally say that a woman can resume sexual activity after about six weeks of having their baby. This, however, does not mean that her sex drive will be back in sync by that time. In fact, it is going to vary based on the woman and her body as to exactly when her sex drive will be back. Doctors have stated that it can take a few months, or even as long as a year to get the libido back in full swing.

How Can I Increase My Libido?

To assist with increasing the libido and adding passion back into the relationship, slowly ease back into intimacy. There’s nothing worse than feeling pressured into having sex. So ease back into things by just reviving the closeness the two of you once shared. This can be as simple as cuddling up on the couch together or having a passionate kiss followed by a nice hug. Even something as simple as holding hands can reconnect you. Another option is to simply give each other a no-pressure massage, meaning the massage doesn’t have to lead to sex. The feeling of your hands on each other in a totally relaxing way not only feels good but brings you closer together. Sometimes these massages can stir up the libido resulting in passionate and amazing sex.

Another way to help your libido is to get plenty of sleep. When a woman’s body is exhausted, it is going to naturally affect life in the bedroom. This can seem difficult in the beginning, especially for first-time parents. Try to get between 6 to 8 hours of sleep when you can. When the baby takes a nap during the day; take a nap with them. This will allow you to feel more revived at night, when you may want to work some of your mojo on your significant other.

Get ready for sex. What does that mean? It means prepare yourself physically and mentally for sex. Many women suffer from low self-esteem after having a baby, which can affect their sex life. So take a nice hot bath to relax your body. If you’re someone who likes wine, then have a nice glass of wine. Wear something that makes you feel sexy. It doesn’t have to be a revealing piece of lingerie. Men have said some of the sexiest moments have been seeing the woman in their life in a T-shirt with her hair lightly tossed. When you feel sexy, it shows no matter what you’re wearing. So find what makes you feel the sexiest and go for it.

And last but not least, make time for sex. You need to plan time for the two of you. If you know your child goes to sleep around 9 p.m. every night and is asleep until 3 a.m. then schedule some alone time for the two of you. While scheduling time for sex may not seem exciting, the truth is that when you know it’s coming, you begin to look forward to it. Your body anticipates it and that makes it even more exciting for you, thus increasing your libido.

Having a baby doesn’t mean that your sex life is over. Yes, the dynamics of your sex life will change but it’s not over. Granted you can’t have sex all day and all night like you use to, but the intimacy, the passion and sheer desire don’t have to go just because you have a child. Using your imagination and finding ways to keep the spark in your relationships helps, and eventually you will see an increase in your libido.


Keeping the romance alive

ROMANCE 911: Keeping the Romance Alive through the Demands of Parenthood

When a baby enters the picture, the dynamics of your emotional and sexual expression are forever changed. The love between two must now make room for three. However, the love you will develop for your new family member will be quite different from anything you’ve ever experienced before.

Yet the reality is that most couples are under-prepared for the changes that accompany parenthood and sometimes, the impact is nothing short of an emotional crisis. Both your personal and social life change significantly, and any pre-existing financial challenges are further heightened.

Although much has been researched and written about romantic relationships, far less has been studied regarding how love changes between a man and a woman after the baby is born. The romantic love that brings couples together is an intense exchange between two people, but when a child enters the picture this exchange not only redirects its focus, it becomes one way. And because a baby’s demands for care are intense, this forever changes that bond as a couple as they become both partners and parents.

Yet it also highlights an important part of the intimate bond between couples – care giving- which has a great impact on one’s level of relationship satisfaction. Despite this, little attention has been given to this aspect of sexuality. Instead, the focus has been predominantly on sexual desires and techniques in achieving physical satisfaction. Read more